I got caught in the rain earlier this week, on my way to work, and the first person that saw me responded by saying “Even when your soaked and wet you walk in with a smile.” My typical response is, “life is too short to not smile.” I have a real positive outlook on life, and refuse to let others cloud my day. The same smile I have when I walk into work is the same smile I have through out my day and is the same on my way out the door. No, my smile is not insincere, it’s actually an honest smile, since it is me at peace with myself.
I do not believe myself to be the nicest person, since I’m not! I have little patience for dealing with those who claim ignorance time and time and again, or those who talk down to others who are not even their subordinates(I’m not saying that’s it’s okay to talk down to subordinates, but it happens). I do understand that I must remain civil with all, whom I may have to deal with directly and indirectly. So my smile and overall demeanor at work and in everyday tends to be happy. Just because I may smile with you at work doesn’t mean we’re buddies and you’ll be invite into my next poker night.
See, at work at one and time or another we’ve talked about going out after work, for some food and drinks, nothing formal just Happy hour. You know in every job there are those who always say yeah, let’s do it, but seen to be the hollywood hangout type. The Hollywood Hangout is that old friend you see in the street and chat for a few minutes only to end up saying, “let’s hang out, call me”, yet when you walk away you realize you don’t have their number. Well I’m not like that, if I tell you we should get together then I’m going to organize it! I don’t do hollywood hangouts. If I never ask you how your weekend was, chances are that, I don’t care, nor we will be hanging out.
So I decide that to see if every one well almost everyone wanted to go out for happy hour. Over all I have some really cool co-workers, as is in life, nothing is perfect so there is one person who I just DO NOT click with, so one I didn’t attempt to invite the person. I invited my immediate co-workers, my fellow teachers, of which, this person is not. Ohh something else I don’t do, invite people and hope they say no, so I look like a nice guy for asking. Nope that is not me. I also stated that if the person where to show up I’d be excusing myself. I was told that, “that’s not nice”, and “how can you do that?” My reply was simple I’m on my time and what I choose to do on my time is after all, is my time, and that includes who I hangout with!
What makes the, situation, well it’s really not a situation, but what makes it funny is that, I’m not the only one who rather the person not go, I’m just the only one who will not only say it but not beat around the bush about it!
One of my pet peeves is people who are totally blinded to facts that surround them. If you as a person do not understand that there is a cause and effect for everything you do, and the negative aura that follows you is your doing, then I can’t honestly deal with you. I will say, I’ve had some wonderful work relationships with people, who to this day I would never spend my personal time with!
Have you ever worked with someone who believed everyone like them when in reality, most would rather avoid them?
Would you invite someone after work who you did not share any interest in getting to know?
How would you handle the situation?
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