I was just about to lay down and call it a night, when I got to thinking about a topic to write about, Love. I figured I’d call @nycitymama in the morning, as she loves to talk about her Husband whenever she has a chance, I wanted to see if we could do something about Love and relationships. I was asked recently how do I keep the love up with my wife, we’ve been together almost nine years, married two in April, we also have a loving seven year old son together. Since I can’t quite fall asleep now I guess I tell you how we keep the love going.
One thing I enjoy is when I make my wife blush. Yeah its simple, but ladies when was the last time your man made you blush? Its great to see my hot sexy wife blush (yep my wife is a milf). The look on her face when I whisper something semi-sweet and nasty in her ear is priceless. She’ll look down trying to avoid eye contact with a slight giggle, and what do I get out of it, a beautiful smile. Nothing is hotter than her genuine smile.
Another thing is be a big kid, no I don’t mean to grab your ladies ass with both hands in the middle of times square and act like teenagers with no where to make out, but hey I just may swoop her up in my arms and plant a nice wet kiss while waiting for the light to change at the corner and, grab a cheek with one hand, I’m just saying.
Next is make out! Yeah so what we’re married, there’s nothing wrong with watching a late night movie on the sofa and acting like teenagers (acting like a teenager is okay when done in the privacy of your home).
One of the most important things to ensuring love doesn’t get lost in our HOME, is to expose our lil man to it. Not trying to preach but seriously how can my son love if he doesn’t know what it is. My son sees me kissing mommy and mommy kissing daddy all the time. We do group hugs and kisses just because. There is nothing more loving then to have your kid say “I think we need a group hug or kiss, come stand up daddy, stand up mommy”. So when I love my wife I am also teaching my son how to love, ensuring that love will be present in the next generation.
So with these quick thoughts out of my head I can now lay down beside my wife.
Tell me what do you do to keep the Love in your relationship or marriage going? Share your tips in the comments and who knows maybe you can help me write part two? Don’t forget to comment and to pass this along! Thanks and good night!
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Married for 19 years, together w/ DH for 25. Love him more than yesterday, less than tomorrow…sappy as it sounds! I’d say you are doing everything right…the mere idea that you “think” about how to stay “in love” and keep it real at the same time is proof positive that you CARE enough to WANT to make it last. And that’s the secret. Truth be told, we still “sandwich” our eldest son with a group hug….now 15 yrs. old…just like we did when he was 2. (We sandwich the other two…ages 12 and 10…in there, too!)
My BEST piece of advice, next to what you have already said about SHOWING the LOVE…is ALWAYS letting them know that you have resolved a conflict. Healthy relationships will/should experience conflict…and strong relationships survive the most tumultuous of times. Problem is, we often kiss and make up when the kids are not around. They are often left wondering….”Is everything okay?” Let ‘em see you make up. Let ‘em all that “all is good”. Show them how to solve conflicts in a healthy way!
I commend you and your wife for showing him love, because so many young men are not conditioned with love as they grow up but mostly indifference and how not to express emotion, etc. Then they’re basket cases for someone else to deal with. No bueno.
As for me, I still dont like to see my parents kiss. Ewww! Though it is a perfectly natural behavior, I just prefer not to see it. lol But I believe wholeheartedly in touch. I love massages and hugs. A hug can lower my blood pressure.
So keep on doin what you’re doin. : )
My lil man is at that stage where when he sees people kissing, he does the, “That’s nasty”, and gets uncontrollable giggles when kissing scenes show up on TV, yet he’s fine when me and THE WIFE kiss. I guess its normal everyday day for us making it acceptable. And my son offers to gives us massages when we complain of pains!